Whaddup my N*&%A

Whaddup my n&%#a is a far too common phase heard amongst my negro brethren. I must say I've never been a fan of the word usage and now that we have a "brotha" as a president I hate it even more. I can't understand why we (black people) continue to disrespect ourselves like that. I hate when people call him Mr. Obama when he clearly should be addressed as President Obama! If some white person called him nigga yall would have a damn fit! It's derogatory in every way. It's not cool, hip, dope, or the way we talk! It's none of that. It's derogatory! I may call you my muh'f&*^a but never ever "my ni**a". You people (yes you black people, lol) use it too freely in circles outside of your "homie" circles. I implore that we (yes us black people) do better my people. I mean come on, I'm sure we can find an equally cool word to use to signify that individual as brethren! I don't want to be the only one with an opinion. What I want to do is hear from you all out there. Please talk to me. I need an outside opinion. 

WORD OF THE DAY times 2

since my son actually spent the night at his moms, I don't have a new word for tdy. :-( yes I am sad about that.. but we reinforced yesterdays word. UM-BREL-LA. 3 syllables. "Umbrella keeps me dry when it rains". that's my lil prodigy!!

I don't understand daddy

My son and I enjoy a lot of good times together, and a few difficult ones here and there. I believe there are a few common things that are difficult for most parents to deal with. Here are just a few that I know I personally see prevalent with todays kids and parents. 1: Your child is in pain and isn't able to communicate the problem to you is the worst for me. I can't stand my son being in pain and not being able to do anything because I do not know what is wrong. 2: Next up is the 'toddler mood swings' as I like to call it. My son at times just starts to "bug out " and act totally out of character, and I don't know what the hell is going on.
But the one that I've been struggling with the most, is when my son wants to do what I ask him, but he doesn't understand HOW to do what I am asking. My son is probably has an above average (not me talking, but people who know kids) intelligence for just turning 3 a couple of months ago. I sometimes forget that he's just 3 and put a lot of pressure on him. I would ask him something I felt was pretty simple, clear, and plain, and he just couldn't get what I was asking. I would ask him to blow his nose, and just couldn't get it, but he'd turn around and spell tortoise, or recite damn near an entire movie after watching it once. "Blow out AHJAN!" was a common phrase heard daily around my apartment. Instead of blowing, he'd inhale through his mouth and then again with his nose, instead of blowing out with his nose. He'd be so hurt because he could see that was not what I was asking. "I'm trying dad" is what he'd say. I think about it now and it brings me to tears that I could be so upset with him because he didn't understand the difference between out and in. "I'm trying dad" or "I want to make you happy dad" is what he'd say. My son gets very congested and I tried damn near everything under the moon to help him. Nebulizer, steamy shower bathroom, meds, vicks, humidifier, the green bulb syringe you get from the hospital when the baby is born, but nothing worked.
I'm a sports coach so I understand that there is always a different way to get across your message. But for some odd reason I was neglecting to use that knowledge with my son. Finally, I said to myself that my son is very intelligent and he doesn't get it, so it must be me. I thought to myself, how can I get my lil guy to understand what "blow it out" means. So I asked him to breath normally. I caught the rhythm of his breathing, and started saying, "out, in, out, in, out, in" again and again and again. Finally he was picking up what out and in was. We then went back to trying to get him to blow his nose. But at first he would breath in and out a bunch of times, and I had to correct that little bit of confusion. FINALLY my son got it. He now is probably the blow king. Excuse me for this next bit of information...... He blew his nose one morning and the most grossest booger flew out his nose, through the tissue and across the bathroom into the bathtub! I jumped out of the way (mind you he had already shot my in the forehead with a booger the day before), and let out a very girlie like yelp of disgust! LOL..... but I was so very happy that my son now understood what I had been asking him. After we laughed about that booger in my bathtub, my son looked at me and said, "That makes you happy dad" and smiled! I melted. That left eye of mine, teared up like it does when my son does something so genuine. I wiped the tear away and gave him a big hug and apologized to him for all the times I got upset with him for not understanding daddy. Parents, be patient with your kids. I know it's hard sometimes, believe me I do. But if yours is anything like mines, he/she only wants to make you happy.

word and sentence of the day

Every day I give my son a new word to learn. We spell it outloud, annunciate it, then go to the refridge and use his magnetic letters to spell it out once again before I take him to school. When I pick him up from school, I ask him the word and sentence of the day.

Word of the day for 4/24/09 is DANCE. D A N C E

and his sentence is, 'music makes me want to DANCE'

I have been doing this for a month now but I've always been active in teaching him words and how to sound out a word to learn how to say it when he doesn't know it. His vocabulary is obviously increasing rapidly. I have other ideas to increase your kids ability to communicate effectively. feel free to get at me... take care.